on connecting

24 . May . 2010

thanks, biblical parenting, for today’s gem:

practical ways to connect with your child’s heart

connecting with a child is easier for some parents than others, and easier with some kids than others.
parents and kids have different personalities, likes, and dislikes.
with some kids, connecting takes real creativity and persistence.
here are eleven suggestions to help you find ways to connect with your child’s heart.

1. talking.
children often like to hear stories from your own childhood.
don’t feel like you have to tie a lesson into the story.
just tell it to them as if you were relating the details to a friend.

2. listening.
take an interest in their activities and their day.
once they start talking, draw them out with more questions.

3. touching.
a hug or a gentle hand on a shoulder
communicates warmth and love.

4. high-energy activities.*
kids love excitement.
look for exciting activities to enjoy together.

5. look for ways to share your child’s interests.

6. give occasional special treats.

7. find a task and work at it together as teammates.

8. offer genuine praise for a job well done.

9. have fun with your kids.
be silly, tell jokes, or wrestle.

10. new times in a child’s life set the stage to connect emotionally.
be there and available to share the moment.

11. traumatic events provide opportunities to develop closeness.
remember that the most important thing isn’t fixing the problem,
it’s restoring the heart.

in short, enjoy your kids and have fun with them.
take an interest in their lives. if you don’t feel like it, do it anyway.
your kids need your playfulness, love, affection, and joy.
when you give to your kids, you contribute to their
well-being and your family’s strength.

yes, it’s sacrifice, but the time you put in now will go a long way
toward reducing friction when it’s time to confront or discipline.

*reminds me of some of the chapters
in h. clay trumbull’s, ‘hints on child training’
(elisabeth elliot’s great-grandfather),
i appreciate his take on
childhood amusements.

ps –
from the times,
some harlem churches fight for survival


end of preschool partay

21 . May . 2010

train playground


pizza delivered hot+fresh
directly to the playground,


oh, those danieleyes.

adam, ezra, b, boone, sloan, honor + remy

lydia, jj + b

adam + remy brave the cold.

miss emmy

ezra, king of the fountain.

jj + honor

drying out.

lyd, b, jj, rem, hon, ez + daniel

taking a clue

21 . May . 2010

paul miller’s melting description of jesus
in love walked among us,

‘…because he holds onto his
time and schedule so lightly,
he doesn’t get irritated at being interrupted.’

oh, for the grace to
‘hold lightly’ today.

[self: take note]
‘be quick to listen,
slow to speak,
and slow to become angry
for man’s anger
does not bring about
the righteous life
that God desires.’

james 1:19-20

dear west side community,
(mom’s grp + beyond)

i’m going to attempt this.

attempt to merge the three mom’s groups’
summer playground schedules
so we can see as many friends,
new + old,
between 9am and 1pm
on these dates below…

24 may, mon, hippo playground (91st + rsd)
26 may, wed, hippo and river run (1-3pm)
31 may, memorial day

2 june, wed, hippo
7 june, mon, adventure (68 + cpw, upper playground) or 100th st playground (at cpw)
9 june, wed, hippo
14 june, mon, elephant (76 + rsd) or rudin (96 + cpw)
16 june, wed, hippo
21 june, mon, children’s petting zoo (10am sharp) later into the zoo
23 june, wed, hippo
28 june, mon, hecksher (cpsouth + 7th ave) or 100 st playground (at cpw)
30 june, wed, hippo

5 july, mon, hippo
7 july, wed, river run (83 + rsd)
12 july, mon, wild west playground (93 + cpw) or river run
14 july, wed, river run
19 july, mon, elephant (76 + rsd) or rudin (96 + cpw)
21 july, wed, river run
26 july, mon, tot lot 105 (105 + rsd) or adventure (68 + cpw)
28 july, wed, river run

2 aug, mon, spector (86 + cpw)
4 aug, wed, museum of natural history (sprinklers on the 2nd fl terrace)
9 aug, mon, 100 st playground (at cpw) or river run
11 aug, wed, nat hist sprinklers
16 aug, mon, dinosaur (96 + rsd) or adventure (68 + cpw)
18 aug, wed, nat hist sprinklers
23 aug, mon, hippo
25 aug, wed, nat hist sprinklers
30 aug, mon, rudin (96 + cpw) or hecksher (cpsouth + 7th ave)

6 sept, labor day
13 sept, mon, spector (86 + cpw)

. hooray for summer 2010 .

ps –
bring a friend.


19 . May . 2010

mama cho’s famous bulgogi,
hot dog & halleluijah.

nathan’s slimy experiment.

[enter stage right: cornstarch + water
in varying proportions]


18 . May . 2010

messages like these:

and pictures like this
(his cozy lr):

are almost enough to make
me swim across the ocean
[with four little ones in tow]
to be with my beloved.

come on,
the table is set for two.

i should so be there…

on suffering

18 . May . 2010

‘His wise love feeds us with hunger.
it fattens us with famine.
Lord! spoil my fool’s heaven here below
that I might have thy true heaven forever.’

-samuel rutherford, letters

b, c + h
[shaped rubberbands as bracelets,
someone somewhere is making a $$killing$$.]